Vicious circle to Conscious circle

How do I get out of this vicious circle? This question hits hard when u realize you are all alone in a pool of negativity. Sometimes I wonder why can't we remain as kids and not grow up. The innocence that we see in a kid gradually fades away. We start to hurt others, we get hurt and it goes on until Trust issues and heartbreaks as we grow older. However, the good news is that this kind of issue is solvable, especially after reading "Think like a Monk" part - 2 [ negativity ].

Growing up I experienced so many circumstances of how people can be mean, jealous, envious, etc., I will tell you a few of those stories here. Number one and probably the first one is when I had a new hair bow. The hair bow was rama green in color and beautifully used to fit my hair. It used to pull all my front hair backwards and I loved it. When I desperately wanted to wear it to my school my mom warned me that someone might damage it out of jealousy. Guess what it was true! One of the seniors in school took it just to have a look at it and broke it, easily my heart was broken and my eyes welled up! It was a beginner's lesson of what the real world is!

Later on, I was betrayed by of my best friends who showed me she isn't my bestie after all. But it took me a very long time to completely realize she isn't my best friend, later on, is my former friend and now an acquaintance! See how relationships can change their positioning as we grow. Still, life had so many new lessons and chapters lined up for me. Once I loved the most, liked the most, and wanted the most aren't there in my contact list now! I broke the trust of a few and they did try to hurt me the most in the name of "revenge" I guess, I don't know what it is, but it was vicious for sure.

When all these things happened at the same time I doubted myself, I was confident, it was a dark phase. What scares me a lot is we put up with our new relationships with the trauma of old ones. We subconsciously pass on the negativity of old relationships to new ones.

This book think like a Monk has given me so many practical tips to break through these insecurities, trauma, heartbreaks, etc. The author has wonderfully explained the concept of negativity with simple examples and also has given ways to deal with it. Getting to know the problems and having solutions for them is such a happy way to lead a life. In this book, chapters are divided into parts is further divided into small sections related to that part making us easy to assimilate what we read. Moving forward in my life I have the proper tools to deal with the situation that comes my way. Now I consciously choose my group instead of getting into vicious circles, even if I do get into one I more quickly get out of it!

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lots of love,

Deeksha.